there’s a difference between tough love and domineering love.
I appreciate the former. And I hope I can give it. Tough love is when you love a person too much to allow him/her to remain where he/she is when you know he/she can be at a place which is so much better. and you tell him/her straight. and you help him/her to go to the next level.
Domineering love is another thing, though. When you tell someone what he/she should do, ought to be doing, must do. it makes the person end up feeling he/she is the worst sinner in the world if he/she doesn’t do it. it is almost like leadership exerting authority using love as an excuse, a justification.
(so, which one are you giving me?)